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When Two Become One The Miracle In Marriage By: Attorney
John Del Buono and Barbara Del Buono “Questions every couple should ask themselves as a barometer of their marriage. It is both refreshing and helpful because it is based on Christian marriage values in a complex world.”
When Two Become One
is a practical guide for couples to use to achieve a happy marriage.
It allows them to do this in the privacy of their own home, and to maintain
their dignity while solving problems in their relationship and marriage. The authors show you specifically where to look for the kind of love you want from each other. They demonstrate how all aspects of your life have affected you and have caused you to be the kind of loving person you offer to your partner and he or she to you.
Excerpts from When Two Become
One: When Two Become One
includes questions every couple should ask each other before marriage
but especially before divorce. The questions are designed to provoke
you to think deeply about yourselves and your relationship. For
instance: Do either of you give the other the silent treatment? This form of punishment aimed at your
marriage partner is very destructive to you and your spouse. It
is a sign of deep-seated immaturity. It is another form of walking
away from the problem in your marriage without the embarrassment or
inconvenience of leaving home. It can be a worse solution than
walking away because you are now just walking within. That can
cause more serious problems for you, personally, than those you have
with your partner. Do you habitually spend more money than your have? The self-control of two people moving
in unison is at stake if you habitually spend more money than you make.
An agreed upon budget is a must if you are to begin to cope with the
problem as a couple. You cannot continue this pattern without
serious consequences resulting. Unless you agree to work together
to solve the problem, your marriage relationship will be seriously affected. Do either of you do things to avoid sexual relations with the other? If you do, you are avoiding another
problem about which you refuse to talk with your partner. This
is like a cancer on your marriage; you cannot hide it for long.
It will grow and kill your marriage unless you discuss this avoidance
with each other. Do either of you allow a family member to ridicule the other in your presence? If this kind of conversation takes place, it is a very serious matter that will breed feelings of contempt toward the marriage partner if allowed to continue. You chose to marry your spouse because you loved him/her. Allowing anyone, particularly family, to ridicule this person in front of you is an insult to the decision you made and to your partner. You must take action so that your family members will know that you will not tolerate it. QUOTES AND ENDORSEMENTS: Be aware that if the person who knows you the best, loves you the most, this indicates you are truly a great
person. “My overwhelming experience with marital failure has been that far too little was known about the persons attempting to live in the most intimate relationship on earth, marriage.”
Attorney John Del Buono “It behooves every person about to be married, and those already in marriage, to discover the level of maturity of yourself and the person you are married to. Without knowing this, you will constantly wonder—what you are doing wrong and why you cannot get along with this person you thought you loved.” “The degree of love in your life is not an unchangeable force. If you want to love with a deeper quality and a more intense passion, you have the free will
to learn how to do so.” "Thought provoking and refreshing... It reflects my own views on marriage and delves deeper into aspects that I would not have thought to discuss, although the points should be discussed." An excerpt of this book was published in “the Family” and won an award from the Catholic Press Association
for Best Article on Family Life. Barbara also composed the song Love Me And I Will Love You which is available upon request with the purchase of When Two Become One. |
